Sorry but person A can’t play with person B. B wont play with C. C will play with both as long as we don’t do quest X or put person A or B in roll Q. And both A and B want to do quest X only….
Or in other words when I have the star, Frack my Life.
Ever have one of those nights where everyone seems to have brought their baggage to the party? I travel fairly light any more. I have two people I don’t play with and I don’t think either play anymore. But if they did/do and they act like a human beings and keep their mouth shut I don’t think I would notice they were back in my group.
That said I know people have reasons not to want to play with others. I don’t even care what those reasons are. If your reason is good enough for you it is good enough for me. If you don’t want to play with person B don’t. And I will defend you for leaving when your gone. But if your desire to play with me is less then your desire not to play with person B what am I to do? Especially when person B is a guildie with a reservation via mails that you don’t happen to get…
I have to give preferred treatment to members of the guild. It sounds like crap but it is true. Or otherwise my guild wouldn’t be what it is (one of the best ones around). I expect all my guildies to do the same for the other members.
That doesn’t mean you, a person on my friends list, can’t have my loyalty too. But I have to be a good leader within my guild.
It is not fair to me (or anyone else) that I secretly hope that person B doesn’t long on while playing with person A or vice versa.
I don’t have an easy answer for people when this happens. If people can’t talk it out and learn to be civil for the sake of a third or forth person, I don’t know what to do…
My wife’s best friend, hates me or did enough that she tried to stop my wedding right up to the walk down the isle, and I believe she has tried to talk my wife into leaving me more then once (Thankfully my wife is dumb and still loves me 🙂 I am an ass after all.). And I don’t like her because of that fact and some other things that I happen to feel strongly about but wont talk about on an internet blog post. The point is we have worked out a system for my wife to be able to see and hang out with her best friend. Once and a while I will even recommend a visit (and offered her my rental house so she could move closer) because I know what spending time with a friend means. All awhile I don’t put her head on a stick on my front yard while she is “visiting” sleeping on my couch and she hasn’t been successful in talking my wife into leaving me.
If two people can work things out enough to be civil to each other that has as much bad blood as she and I do then I think that there is hope for everyone to put their feelings aside for the other person/s that they do care about.
But hey if you can’t, No problem. But if I slip up and forget you let you know that players on your do not group list are planing on tagging along then well sorry. I don’t even check my dnp list any more….
Understand that, it is never easy… Most people/like myself, play the game to get away from stress not cause it/or let it into our roleplaying time. Others revel in drama/in and out of game. My motto has always been be good or be gone… works in and out of game.
Another great point you made: is/if someone is not nice or two don’t get along having a mutual friend or loved one makes it impossible not to find common ground.
One of my friends’ boyfriend didn’t like me/I never did anything to antagonize him…. and didn’t understand till years later. He was attracted to me, but frustrated and it came out as hate. Perhaps your wife’s bestfriend really doesn’t dislike you/scarey but true sometimes people just don’t know how to act. Although I never returned this man’s feeling, I now understand a bit better/wink….
Have fun, see ya ingame
hack em all up/Adnora
🙂 Sounds tough. And I’m sorry about the thing with your wife’s best friend.
I sorta fake it. No matter how crappy things feel, on the game chat I can always add a big smiley and a few jokes. And if I can’t, I just log off.
Only one time have I had someone drop from the party and send me a tell that they won’t play with person A. I was very confused.
I did, though, during CC, send a pst to another cleric, that I was finding a third cleric (we were 3 clerics in the party) annoying. He replied that he’s staying out of it. I said “I’m not asking you to pick sides, I was just saying pst, btw, I’m finding this person annoying”. 🙂 He didn’t respond too well, though, and ended up telling the 3rd cleric not to tell me what to do, and she ended up being annoyed. XD so, I guess I shouldn’t do that next time.
Order of the Stick Leapt into my mind with this read.. heh.